Reframing All or Nothing
Waypoint Message
Life isn't a pass or fail test - it's a spectrum of experiences, growth, and learning. When you catch yourself thinking in extremes like "I'm terrible at this" or "I have to be perfect," you're missing the beautiful middle ground where real progress happens. Most of life exists in the space between perfect and disaster, between always and never. When you learn to see the gray areas, partial successes, and gradual improvements, you free yourself from impossible standards. You can be good at some things and still learning others. You can have bad days and still be a good person. Balance is where wisdom lives.
Success Strategies
1. Find the Middle Word
Replace “always” and “never” with “sometimes” or “right now.” It softens your thinking.
2. Spot the Gray Zone
When you feel like giving up, ask: “What small good thing happened today, even if the day was hard?”
3. Say: “This Isn’t All or Nothing”
Speak this phrase when you catch yourself thinking in extremes. Remind yourself: progress is messy.
Shift your thinking:
Use the shift cards below to reframe your outlook on the day.
Connection Matters:
Use the connection cards below to start a conversation with the people around you.