Considering Perspectives
In a world rich with differences, true understanding begins with curiosity. "Considering Perspectives" invites us to pause our assumptions and step into someone else’s shoes, not to agree, but to understand. It’s about opening the lens, listening more than speaking, and being willing to hold multiple truths at once. This practice fosters empathy, reduces conflict, and helps us grow beyond the boundaries of our own experiences. When we learn to see through others’ eyes, our world gets wider, and our hearts get wiser. This is not a practice of compromising your own values, but instead an opportunity to let go of the fact that you do not have to force everyone in your life to agree with you. Taking time to look at things from another viewpoint can take the pressure off of you. This practice allows you to control your thinking without falling into the trap of feeling responsible for others thoughts.
Understanding the Science
Perspective-taking is a core strategy in reducing bias and increasing empathy. Research from cognitive and social psychology shows that when people engage with diverse viewpoints, it enhances critical thinking and reduces stereotyping. Laurie Santos emphasizes the role of social connection and listening as fundamental to well-being. Martin Seligman’s PERMA model highlights “Relationships” as a pillar of flourishing, and high-quality relationships are built on mutual respect and understanding. Empathy, particularly cognitive empathy, the ability to understand another’s point of view, is linked to greater emotional regulation and conflict resolution. These practices strengthen neural pathways associated with compassion and reduce reactivity.
Success Strategies
1. Curiosity Check: Before reacting, ask: “What might I be missing here?”
2. Two-Minute Listen: In conversation, pause to let the other person speak without interrupting or preparing your reply.
3. Diversify Input: Intentionally seek out books, podcasts, or art from perspectives different than your own.
4. Shared Humanity Lens: When encountering bias or conflict, silently ask: “What do we both care about, deep down?”
“It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.”
— Audre Lorde
Connection Matters:
Use the connection cards below to start a conversation with the people around you.